It’s Finally Happened! You’ve been invited to an Indian wedding! You are so excited until the realisation sets in that you have NO CLUE what to wear. Well, there’s no need to worry because we’re here to give you the skinny on what’s good this wedding season. Let’s start with the ground rules and then break it down by each event.
I personally live quite far away from my extended family and haven’t been exposed to the usual weekly wedding of a different relative on a regular basis. The first wedding I attended, I wore a little black dress. While it’s always a classic and I technically didn’t do anything wrong, I felt COMPLETELY out of place as everyone was dressed in combinations of bright and vivid colours (I was forgiven because I was only fourteen at the time). Although I looked “Nice” according to my relatives, I definitely came across like I didn’t make an effort. So to avoid repeating this faux pas, here are the guidelines I’ve created for myself ever since. Always, ALWAYS have these on hand, whether it is wedding season or not:
In a little shoe box at the back of my wardrobe is a treasure trove of glittery goods.
Safe from everyday wear and tear, I keep my little treasure chest (it’s actually a giant shoe box) stocked with these essentials which come to my rescue every time I hear those magic words, “Dear Nina, You are cordially invited…”. Those words don’t faze me anymore! Here’s a look at what’s in the box:
Go for basic gold and silver first, as they go with everything, and then pick whichever ones you like most! Keep them in the box they came in so they can stay safe for much longer, and if you like to save space like me, stack them inside a big shoe box (the kind you get when you buy a large pair of boots) or any cardboard box will do. This helps you keep all your wedding accessories in one spot for easy access.
Payals – To add a spring in your step!
Now, these are not a compulsory accessory, but a pair of classy anklets are a great way to embrace the wedding spirit. You can choose a delicate pair that focuses more on the design than the sounds, or you could get dolled up “with bells on” and choose a more musical pair of payals that jingle with each step! Remember to choose them based on your jewellery. Speaking of jewellery, that brings us to our most important accessory of all!
Depending on your personal taste, you can opt for either real or imitation jewellery. Make sure you have a matching set of earrings and a necklace in that little treasure chest of yours and try to make sure that at least one set of bangles match too. Bonus tip: Keep assorted Bindis on hand to complete the look. If your accessories compliment your shoes, you’ve just gone up 100 style points!
Now for the Clothes!
Get ready to get messy for the Haldi ceremony.
Depending on your level of participation, keep one or 2 soft, flowy dresses or a salwar kameez if you really want to get dressed up. But if you want to get your hands dirty, you can also go super casual. Here we have a loophole- because turmeric can stain bright yellow we have the option to wear an old pair of khakis/jeans and a shirt that can live with a stain. This won’t cause offence to anyone around and rather shows dedication to getting your Haldi on! Go with oranges, pinks and cream colours.
Flowy Skirts & Sleeveless Tops Work Well for Mehendi Ceremonies
For the Mehendi, I suggest a deep green (as close to a Mehendi stain colour as possible so you at least have a chance of wearing it again.) Women should wear something comfortable and nice but acceptable to get some henna stains. Although we try to be super careful, we know one or two smudges of Mehendi will inevitably make it onto our clothes. If not from ourselves, then from a clumsy passerby. I recommend a nice flowy skirt so you can get pretty designs on your feet, and let’s face it, skirts are way more comfortable anyway!
For the Sangeet, Think “Bollywood Movie”
Seriously, just go for it! Take your time and buy a fantastic crop top and lehenga, and let loose on the dance floor! (This is my favourite part!) There is nothing stopping you from looking like heroine as the venue turns into a delightful setting for a Bollywood musical extravaganza. Put on your dancing shoes and enjoy the revelry with your near and dear ones.
Time for the Pièce De Résistance – The Most Important Feature!
For the wedding ceremony wear a lehenga choli or a sari. Since saris can be a tad difficult to handle for those of us who aren’t used to it, I would DEFINITELY suggest a lehenga. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love saris and think they make a woman look her most elegant. But for those of us who are not veteran wedding attendees who know their way around a variety of draping styles- not to mention how to deal with our pleats or draping coming undone at the venue, I would recommend wearing a lehenga as a more effortless choice.
Although modern brides wear any colour they choose for their wedding day, I still recommend that as a guest, don’t go overboard with the “reds” as it could look like you’re trying to steal the show from the bride. There’s a wide variety to choose from in so many different colours. As you know, I love everything Koskii, so here’s a look at my current favourites:
My main hack for the Wedding reception/dinner is to wear the same outfit I wore for the wedding ceremony. Afterall it’s not MY wedding, so I don’t need to do a million costume changes.
Well now that you’ve got your emergency Wedding Wardrobe good to go, you’ll never be caught off guard again!